Comments on: in due time…

By: amy wood

amy wood — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 08:08:17 +0000

I just found your blog (and just heard about your shop, which I will be visiting very soon!) I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby! I went through this last year. A book (besides the Bible, the Psalms ecspecially) that really helped me in my healing, was “Safe in the Arms of God” by John MacArthur. You can get it on Amazon. It is full of truth and comfort. Praying for you!
(and love your work!)

By: Terri

Terri — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:45:18 +0000

Hello Heidi…I was wondering what you were up to and just found this blog. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers as you recover and heal. Please take care of yourself in this difficult time. Many hugs, Terri

By: Polly

Polly — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:55:49 +0000

Heidi…I was so very sad to hear of your loss. I cried along with my sweet sister-in-law when they lost their second baby last summer, and saw how profound the loss can be with a miscarriage. My own experience tells me the attachment begins the moment you know you’re pregnant. I am so sorry and hope you’re feeling stronger as each days passes. I am excited for your new venture. Clever, and check back regularly to see the treasures I’m sure I’ll want to own. Take care, Polly Maly

By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 01:07:37 +0000

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Two years ago this upcoming October I lost my one and only in a similar manner to yours. Now that I’m in my 40′s my doctor told me to just give up trying unless we want to undertake some very expensive procedures. Take the time you need to heal and cherish the moments you have with your family. I had to remind myself that even though I couldn’t “birth” my children in the way that “real women” are able to – I did have two amazing and wonderful stepchildren that I needed to focus on. The pain and the love for that little peanut will always be there – but things do get easier in time.

By: Roxane A

Roxane A — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 19:05:05 +0000

Heidi,
I’m so very sorry for your loss. May the words we write to you bring you comfort, and I hope you can delete the post above. So very rude to advertise like that on someone’s blog. So very selfish!
My life has taught me that when we loose someone who is a part of us we don’t get over it. With time the loss becomes something that we learn to live with. I wish someone had told me this, as it took me 9 years to figure this out. I thought there was something wrong with me that I couldn’t “get over it”. I did move on in the sense that I was alive and was going through the motions, but I couldn’t get over the devestation because people would tell me to: “get over it” “move on” “you’re young so this isn’t the end of your life” “there will be others”, and I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t do what they made it sound like everyone but me could do.
After those long 9 years I realized that it was okay that I wasn’t over it, and that I never would be over it, but it was something I had to, and could continue to learn to live with. I live with it as a part of my past, but most importantly I learn to live with it as a part of who I have become and continue to become in my future. One of the ways I honor the life of my loved one is by sharing what I had to learn by myself with others. When someone hasn’t lost someone who is a part of them they just don’t know what to say, and so I try to provide the wisdom/comfort that no one could give me. Perhaps in time your heart will guide you to a way to honor your loved baby.
In close of my long post… I’m also going to share with you my favorite verse from the Bible. I have said it daily to myself for almost five years now. It helps me get through the different challenges life gives me.
II Timothy vs. 4-7
I have fought the good fight;
I have finished the race;
I have kept the faith.
With my deepest sympathy, Roxane